I really liked what you students had to say about feelings. It looks like many of you worry just like I used to! I liked what Gianna said when she said that it helped to talk to her friend. Talking about unpleasant feelings is the best way to feel better. I guess when you share them, then it's kind of like letting someone help you carry them ~ they are not so heavy!
Another feeling that many of you have is anger. In 4th grade, we have been talking about ways to deal with anger. We have talked about deep breathing, counting backwards slowly, thinking nice thoughts, and doing some appropriate self-talk. In 5th grade, we have been talking about giving "I Messages." I Messages are when you tell someone how you are feeling by saying for example, "John, I felt mad when you borrowed my bicycle and return it with a flat tire, because now I have to fix it before I can ride it. I think you should return things in the same condition they were in when you borrowed them."
With an I Message, you say:
- The person's name
- How you feel
- What you want to happen.
It's not magic ~ it doesn't make the problem go completely away, but you sure feel better because you are in control and you have let the person know just how you feel.
Do any of you have any other ways that you handle anger? Remember, they have to be appropriate ~ you can't hurt people and you can't hurt things in dealing with anger.